Marital Monday: Adjectives

An adjective is defined as a word used to describe a person, place or thing. ¬†Who remembers this Grammar Rock Video ūüôā

The other day I asked my husband for 3 adjectives that he thought described me. He did and I was surprised at his word choices. ¬†What I found interesting is that 2 out of the 3 words he used I¬†did not feel described me. How was it that he saw these great qualities that I did not see myself? ¬†I asked him if he was just being nice and he said he wasn’t. ¬†You know sometimes husbands tend to tell us what we want to hear, lol. ¬†Maybe he chose those 3 adjectives because that is how he would like me to be, that’s a thought.

Either way, he did his job as a spouse. ¬†Spouses are supposed to make one another want to be better people. ¬†That is what I took away from our conversation. I want to be those adjectives that he used to describe me. ¬†In fact, I was already in the process of trying to find new adjectives that I would like to use to describe me. ¬†I know that sounds strange, but it is true. ¬†For instance, one of the¬†adjectives I have always used to describe myself is impatient. And as a result, I have always been impatient. ¬†After all these years I finally realized that I need to change my adjectives. ¬†I am going to start using the word “patient” to describe myself and start becoming a more patient person. Lets stop using negative adjectives to describe ourselves.

Think about the adjectives you use to describe yourself.  Ask your spouse or those close to you what adjectives they would use to describe you.  You may be surprised, hopefully pleasantly surprised, lol.

~Tricia

A Labor of Love

heart-1280525_960_720If someone asked me to define the phrase, “a labor of love”, I would say it means hard work you do because you enjoy it not because you will receive praise or any compensation for it.

For me marriage is a labor of love. It takes hard work as well as continuous effort but I do it because I enjoy a happy marriage and the key to that for me other than God’s presence in our marriage is ensuring my husband’s happiness. ¬†I can not imagine what it would be like if I did not make any efforts to make him happy. ¬†It is not something I have to do but it is something I enjoy doing. ¬†For instance, I know my husband enjoys taking lunch to work rather than having to buy it. So it only makes sense for me to cook so that he has something to take to work. Do I always enjoy the act of cooking? No. ¬†But I enjoy providing him with lunch to take. ¬†See how that works?

Do you do what it takes to make your spouse happy? Do you put in the work?  Envision what it would be like in a marriage if you focus on making your wife/husband happy and they focus on making you happy.  It would be amazing. I am not saying your marriage will be perfect. Of course conflicts will still arise, no marriage is without them (if you do not know how to effectively resolve conflicts get some ideas here). But putting in the work and effort is a great start to having a more positive marriage.

Now the second part of this phrase is putting in the work not to receive praise for it. I do not expect my husband to go to work everyday sit at the table with his friends and smack and lick his lips after every bite talking about how good it is that his wife cooked for him. That would be ridiculous.  The efforts we put in should not be done for praises.  However, appreciation is always welcomed and should be expressed.

What are things you do as a labor of love? What do you enjoy doing for your spouse? Do you do it just for praise? Take time to reflect on the questions and ponder over your answers. If necessary make some changes and you may just be pleasantly surprised by the results.

 

~Tricia

 

 

Tasty Tuesday: Whole Wheat linguine with Italian Chicken Sausage

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This meal was super easy and super tasty!!

Ingredients:

1lb cut up Italian Sausage (I used Chicken)

1 small pepper cut

1 small onion cut

Whole wheat linguine

Olive oil

1 can diced tomatoes

Seasonings

Directions:

  1. Cook linguine according to directions on box and set aside.
  2. In a small pan add a little olive oil and saute onion and peppers until soft.
  3. In a medium pan add a little olive oil and cook sausage until browned.
  4. Add onion/pepper mixture to the medium pan with the sausage.
  5. Instead of using a heavy tomato sauce I prefer diced tomatoes. Add amount desired to the onions, peppers and sausage.
  6. Season with your favorite seasonings.
  7. Plate over linguine and enjoy!

~Tricia